tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7746443.post6610361073287631..comments2023-11-02T02:55:39.094-07:00Comments on Mommy Mania: Parenting FailuresAmberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18270666719289599529noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7746443.post-50647327048131124692010-01-21T23:59:52.722-08:002010-01-21T23:59:52.722-08:00Keep posting stuff like this i really like itKeep posting stuff like this i really like itAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7746443.post-39287777037662950722010-01-06T17:13:21.156-08:002010-01-06T17:13:21.156-08:00Get something through that rather hard head of you...Get something through that rather hard head of yours. <br /><br />YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE!<br /><br />Not as a person and certainly not as a parent. I have seen your boys - they are happy and bright, and appear to be quite healthy.<br /><br />When I look back at my eldest (he is 25 this year) I wonder how either one of us survived his teen years (yup, that's when the REAL fun in parenting starts), but survive we did, and now I have a beautiful granddaughter because I chose to allow him to live. Some days I had my doubts.<br /><br />Lois said it best; <br />"They're kids. Kids are tough. They're like Bumbles...they bounce."<br /><br />So how 'bout you get off that pity-pot of yours and realise that you are a great Mom, you have a partner who adores you and worships the ground upon which you walk, your family supports you, and you have annoying friends like me (... and Lois, and Southern Sage, and Certifiable, and Nietha, and Andhari, and ...) who will not hesitiate to remind you not to beat yourself up.nwramblerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13821982293673701379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7746443.post-62528427725954076222010-01-06T15:31:06.405-08:002010-01-06T15:31:06.405-08:00You are not a failure. Failure would be not callin...You are not a failure. Failure would be not calling for help. Failure would be not noticing or reflecting. <br /><br />Your perseverance is a model to your kids. Hang in there.<br /><br />It will be ok. I know it feels hopeless sometimes, but it will get better.cheatymoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06328903955238115971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7746443.post-91833158924242318582010-01-06T10:22:47.620-08:002010-01-06T10:22:47.620-08:00I don't think it's a parenting failure fro...I don't think it's a parenting failure from you at all. I'm sorry things have been tough. I may not know anything about kids but I know the more I grow up the more I realize my parents have done a lot for me and looking back, I was just a spoiled brat and I just couldn't see what they see at the time. <br /><br />Things will be alright, I hope you can figure it out :)Andharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08341293139717998410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7746443.post-35429762271909508032010-01-06T09:56:53.769-08:002010-01-06T09:56:53.769-08:00I concur with all these comments, you are hard on ...I concur with all these comments, you are hard on yourselves. It's a learning experience.<br />Consistency is also a key. Kids are more resilient than we think. You guys are doing a wonderful job. I see patience, I see backing off when you need to take a breath, I see persistence.<br />mummieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7746443.post-89427639940063655322010-01-06T02:49:18.358-08:002010-01-06T02:49:18.358-08:00I've no doubt you're the best Mom they cou...I've no doubt you're the best Mom they could possibly have.<br />kids get over things and I think they have more drastic swings in moods.<br />they're also not old/mature/aware enough to realize that the life they have is pretty damn good compared to a lot of children in the world.<br />they're going to love you regardless and once your family is all settled somewhere it'll be easier to forget a rough period.<br />and hey, maybe they'll be like most of our family and not even remember their childhood.Niethahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16291082187870547525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7746443.post-42409781943526481492010-01-05T18:36:19.716-08:002010-01-05T18:36:19.716-08:00You're both taking the steps caring and loving...You're both taking the steps caring and loving parents do. Admitting our weaknesses and faults helps us all figure out where we need to be...or at the very least, where we DON'T want to be. Life is certainly a work in progress and we can only try to improve upon it for our children.Certifiablehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06225747474431225954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7746443.post-46164017886686470392010-01-05T16:13:35.057-08:002010-01-05T16:13:35.057-08:00Lois is right on it. Everyone has those thoughts....Lois is right on it. Everyone has those thoughts. <br /><br />Just do your best girl. All you can do is all you can do. They will be fine. Find his triggers. Everyone responds to something, some respond to pleasure, rewarding, head patting some respond to punishment, once you figure out what they want bad enough to act right or what they don't want bad enough to act right you will be able to guide them.<br /><br />good luck. It;ll work out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7746443.post-75593601718930996282010-01-05T14:26:14.174-08:002010-01-05T14:26:14.174-08:00Don't be so hard on yourself...they don't ...Don't be so hard on yourself...they don't come with an instruction manual! We all learn this crazy parenting thing one day at a time, hell, sometimes hour by hour.<br /><br />They're kids. Kids are tough. They're like Bumbles...they bounce.<br /><br />Deep breath.Lois Lanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10063013343217476722noreply@blogger.com